Friendship : Butterflies and Rainbows.

Butterflies and rainbows.  To become a butterfly, you need to be an euwwyy caterpillar first. To have rainbows you need rain. Well actually what you need is water that will refract the light and break up the colours in such a way that a rainbow will be formed. But my point is, things don't turn beautiful right away. They take time and effort. Oh yes, this is a revised 'issue'. I wrote similar things here. But here I want to be a bit more specific, I want to talk about fights in friendships. Ever fought with a friend? I have.

I don't know. I've seen friends fighting around me, some survived it and got closer, some I see they never got back to the way they were before. When I fight with a friend and we kiss and make up, I feel so good; happy beyond words. Why? Well, fights are tests aren't they? If you 'pass' the test, it just shows your bond is strong enough. And you know what? I think at times, fights are good. And anyway, its inevitable! Cannot be avoided! There will always be times when you bicker, argue, lash out,hold grudges, feel like pulling hairs, and make faces.

Here's what the med guru wrote :

"After all we are human! Our feelings get hurt; we make mistakes, get irritated, stressed out, cranky, feel misunderstood, and have opinions that clash.
So it’s natural for disagreements to create a bit of an emotional combustion. "

See there:

EMOTIONAL COMBUSTION 

It sounds all scientific doesn't it? Our body needs to do combustion, so why not our brain? eh--Does that make sense? I say brain because emotions are all up there, in that grey matter. Our emotions sometimes need to be tried and tested, so we'll come out stronger, or have stronger bonds of friendships, right? :) . 

What if after you are done fighting, things don't get back to they way they were before, or worst, you're no longer friends anymore? For me, real friends don't walk out on each other. They just don't. Imma right? :)

Okay so why am I writing this? Well actually this was supposed to be an apology post for the friends I have fought with :') 

To those who no longer consider me as a friend, I just wanna say - Just because you stopped being my friend, doesn't mean I have stopped being yours. :) I have no ex-friends. And insyallah, I will never have. I used to have enemies and all that, and that made me unhappy. I kept seeing faults, kept complaining and I was determined to hate and bad-mouthing. Now where did that get me? Nowhere. Maybe even backwards. I gained nothing, not even heart satisfaction. Well I've learned my lesson. 

You'll have fights in your friendships. But its okay. Solat hajat and pray that your friendship will remain strong. That always works for me. When we get to know people, there's always a reason. So what's with the regrets? :)

To my beloved friends, from the bottom of my heart, I apologize. I really am sorry.

• To 'F'. I know you don't consider me as a friend. But I have never hated you. I hope one day, you'll find room in your heart to forgive me. I won't ever forget all the nice things you've done. You can be all 'mean' to me, but I know you got one big heart there :) 
• To my YAMAHA. I seriously love you guys. We rarely fought, yes. But our friendship is often tested, with all the distance and time constraint, but we always have time for each other. Always. And I'm so glad. :)
• To Dijah, my soul-mate. I love you. Fullstop. :) <3

Oh yeah before I finish, I would like to share this poem, one of my faves! :) :) :)

whatever your pain,

there will always be sunshine,

after the rain

Perhaps you may stumble,

perhaps even fall,

But God’s always ready,

To answer your call

He knows every heartache,

sees every tear,

A word from His lips,

can calm every fear

Your sorrows may linger,

throughout the night,

But suddenly vanish,

in dawn’s early light

The Savior is waiting,

somewhere above,

To give you His grace,

and send you His love ..

Whatever your cross,

whatever your pain,

“God always sends rainbows

after the rain.”

- – - written by Pastor Connie Ciccone

P.S Friendship is highly prized in Islam, just read all the hadith on friendships. So if your friendship goes through a rough patch, tell Allah. Insyallah, with effort from your side and Allah's willing, things will be back on track. Trust Him. Always. :) <3